Mama miaThe Five Golden Rules series takes a kinky look at the lives of Australian families. From parents of toddlers to parents of teens, the series asks parents to share their golden parenting rules, including the rules for their children and the rules to follow every day.
This week, a 49-year-old mother-of-two shares her five golden rules for parenting teenagers.
Libby, her husband and their two teenage children live just outside of Fremantle in Western Australia.
She has a “utterly adorable” 16-year-old trans daughter and a 14-year-old son who is a “sports superstar” and a “total overachiever” in school.
Libby’s parenting philosophy is one where she tries as much as possible (without sharing too much) to be honest and vulnerable with her children and to show them what it is like to be a resilient, positive and motivated human being.
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“It’s not that I’m downplaying being a mom, it’s the biggest and most important thing I’ve ever done. But it’s only a things that I am, ”shared Libby.
“Long before I met them, and long after they left the nest, I was, and I am … an adventurer and a traveler; a writer, editor, speechwriter, researcher; a diplomat ; a poet; a funny one a long line of funny motherfuckers; a music lover and a music maker, “she told Mamamia.
With all of that in mind, here are Libby’s Five Golden Rules for her family.
1. Under promise, overdelivery.
“Don’t make a commitment to your child that you can’t keep. There will be a lot of people in their life who will break their trust, but it shouldn’t be you. Each time they will hear the words you say, but if you back them up with the right deed, they will know you mean what you say and say what you think.
“It also spares you a guilt-based parenthood where you stretch yourself emotionally and financially to try to give them ALL. There is a saying that when the gods want to punish you, they answer your prayers. Your kids don’t. learn nothing by receiving everything they want or need (and things they never asked for). Life has challenges, and it helps to set a goal, work, and save for it. achieve, and achieve it. Do not deny them this opportunity to develop courage and perseverance. “